Neck Lift

Mirror Mirror on the Wall…

I have a love/dislike with this industry.. hate is too harsh a word.  I love all the new medical technologies and innovations. New skin care products are continuously evolving with  different forms of stem cells, new raw materials, and exciting technologies to combat aging skin.

I love this industry… a true love/dislike with the world of beauty.
Beauty is both on the inside and the outside…. You may look beautiful on the outside, yet be truly ugly on the inside..There is no surgical fix for ugliness on the inside…

Can our obsessions about our looks and aging actually be unhealthy? Where do we draw the line? How much is too much?  When do we just let go, be healthy, happy, and embrace aging.  These questions haunt me at times..

I love seeing women  who stop coloring their hair. and go naturally grey.

I meet many women in their 50’s who look fabulous and have never tried Botox or fillers.  Would their features look softer with a little injection? Sure it would… yet  they are not ready or prefer not to do it.  Do I really believe that when they look in the mirror that they don’t see the lines or wrinkles or  that they really don’t care? No! I don’t.

It’s a personal choice.. I choose to get my Botox fix, my fillers, laser, and cosmetic surgery.


Plastic Surgery: Life after a Face and NeckLift, What You Should Know!

It has been 8 months since my face and neck lift. There are many aspects of this journey that I was not ready for and many that I was…

I am still numb along the sides of my cheek area, and at times still feel pulling around my neck. This is quite common. To my dismay, my neck is not as tight as I had hoped, there is residual laxity. This can happen. The neck is the most difficult area to treat and one of the most common areas of complaints. There is fine line between too tight and not tight enough. Achieving a natural look is the goal of every facelift. Sometimes, the surgeon pulls as much as he can during the surgery, only to find that as the patient heals, he/she, has not pulled tight enough. There is no way to predict this. When this occurs, you either have to live with it, or have revision surgery. I have chosen a revision after my year mark… Sounds like another blog topic . 🙂

Here are some things that I would like to share:

  1. Do your research. Ask lots of questions. How many procedures has this surgeon done? What is his/her revision rate? Read about the medical procedure, familiarize yourself with the medical terminology and the various techniques used in facelift surgery. Understand what your surgeon will be doing; the expected results and what the policy is if you are displeased with your results. If you are not clear, ASK questions until you are comfortable with the surgery, your surgeon and your decision.
  2. View Before and After photos of current patients. Ask to speak to a couple of them before you make your decision. Do not rely on here -say or pictures alone.. Try meeting in person with the patients before you make a final decision.
  3. If you choose a surgeon out-of-town, prepare for a different post-surgery experience than you would have had from a local surgeon. Your local surgeon will schedule more post-op visits. Ask the surgeon, if he is out-of-town how he handles his post-op patients. Know this in advance, so you are not disappointed or angry with your surgeon, post-op.
  4. Expect to take more time off than your surgeon suggests especially if you are over 50 years old. Although you think you are in excellent health you are not 35. Your body takes longer to heal, it may take 4 – 6 weeks before you really feel yourself.
  5. If you are staying out-of-town, hire a nurse for the first 48 hours, unless you have a friend or family member who is calm about how you are going to look, right after surgery. It is worth the extra money and will give you peace of mind.
  6. Ask your surgeon to please not change your ear lobes, unless you want them changed.. If they do after surgery, make sure that your surgeon is aware of this and will fix it for no charge. Your ears are swollen- no earrings for awhile.
  7. Take care of your skin pre-surgery. Use the right combination of anti-aging and brightening ingredients so you will look radiant after surgery. Have a chemical peel if you need to rid of brown spots. Another option is to combine laser resurfacing with your facelift . You are spending all this money on your facelift, your skin should reflect your refreshed look.
  8. Try not obsess about how you look right after your surgery. Healing takes time and everyone heals differently. If you look into the mirror everyday and question every little flaw on your face or neck, you will drive yourself and your family crazy. Give yourself time. You will see your face evolve and one side may evolve differently. Be patient. Don’t freak out if you are not looking like you expected at first.
  9. Discuss any issues of concerns with your surgeon. You are NOT being a pest. You only have one face and you paid good money for your facelift. If you are not getting the response you need, be persistent. Go to his office and wait if you have to. A good surgeon will be concerned about your concerns and will address them.
  10. Don’t be surprised if you feel depressed after surgery. This is something that many surgeons do not discuss with their patients and they should. It is normal to feel this way and for some this feeling persists for many months. Seek help. Talk about it with others.
  11. Sharp pains after surgery is a normal healing process. The nerves are re-generating. Don’t be scared. You may also experience itching.
  12. As the healing process progresses, you may see things that you do not like. Sometimes they resolve. Give it time. wait until 6 months before you share your concerns with your surgeon.
  13. Having a facelift does not mean you will never have to use fillers again. NOT TRUE! If you are having a facelift plus fat transfer then you will probably not have to use fillers. If you only had a facelift and you are middle age, chances are that you will still need fillers. A facelift will not address volume. The lines around your mouth will not change with a facelift. You may need fillers there or laser treatments.
  14. You will remain numb for a long time.. not to worry. The feeling will come back. If you have any concerns about this ask your surgeon.
  15. This is a huge decision. Know what you are getting into. Prepare yourself and your family.
  16. Costs vary depending on where you live and who is doing your surgery. Facelifts can start at $10,000 and go over $20,000+ including OR, anesthesiologist, Nurse, Hospital and pre-op tests.

Some surgeons are willing to discount procedures, due to the economy. I predict that as the economy improves these discounts will diminish.

I would love to hear your Facelift or cosmetic surgery experiences or any tips that you would like to share.

Plastic Surgery Confession: In Search of a Perfect Neck

I booked my pre-op appointment for 6 weeks before my scheduled surgery.  Ahhh such anxiety .. no turning back now.. Deposit was made. How and when to tell my husband?  I would begin the process of telling him- then chicken out..One  woman whom I spoke with actually had her FL ( facelift) while her husband was out of town.  She told me by the time he came back she had mostly healed, just a little bruised. . According to her account her husband  took it pretty well… However, this was not one of my choices, as I knew that my husband WOULD NOT appreciate not telling. Plus, I don’t think this is a good strategy. Though, not uncommon.

There are many men who are OK with cosmetic surgery and actually understand why so many people opt for it.. On the other hand there are many husbands/partners who just DO NOT.   My husband falls into that category.  In his eyes I am beautiful.  I respect him for thinking this way.  However, this is my choice and  it really has nothing to do with him.

My husband probably would  be more open to breast enhancement …. isn’t that just like a man!! 🙂

The most important part of this journey is that I have his love and support during my recovery. And I know that I can count on that regardless of how he may feel.

Many men, in my opinion have  apprehensions about their wives or partners  having cosmetic surgery. Perhaps, it  a combination of  insecurity, fear of surgery complications,  the unknown, and final outcomes.  The Internet is full of horror stories.  I  recently read an article which said  that  some woman have surgical procedures as a prelude to divorce or break-ups.

I make all my arrangements, to spare him, knowing that I will look awful right after the surgery.  My thinking is that is if I stay away for 3- 4 days, by the time he first sees me after surgery, I will have begun the healing process.  Plus, their is nothing like a  girlfriend’s  support.   Since the plastic surgeon’s office is out of town about an hour or so from home,  I would make arrangements to stay overnight at a hotel nearby with an R.N. for the first 24 hours, which is mandatory, as well as critical.- then go to my cousin’s house who lives nearby  for the next 2 days.

Finally, one week prior to my pre-op – I spring the news during dinner.  My birthday present to myself, I tell him,  “Just a little tightening of the neck.” Emphasizing my need for his love and support.  His reaction at first, makes me laugh.. He recites a  comedy monologue  routine about women and their obsession for beauty.  We laugh a bit.  This helps break the ice.   He tells me his displeasure about this decision and that it concerns him that he was not consulted.  He asked me if it mattered what he thought. Yes, it mattered, I told him, however,  this was my decision.  We went through the dialogue again about aging, my neck, and in his opinion an obsession with cosmetic surgery.  I have had dermal fillers and Botox.  As well as a rhinoplasty many years ago.

After our conversation, I was relieved that the cat was out of the bag… I gave him my surgeon’s contact information and invited him to my pre-op appointment, which was in a few days.  I know- not much notice!!  To Be Continued…