Author: Michele Garber

Blogger, Social Media Consultant and Wholesale Distributor. Beauty Publicist and Founder of dMK Communications, Lifestyle PR firm. Independent Cosmetic Surgery Procedure Consultant

My Silver Hair Transformation Complete! 2020

The day final arrived!!

Archer Salon, San Francisco. Gari James is the owner and Colorist Extraordinaire

2020 certainly was a year full of challenges. When we started shelter in place in March, 2020, I had just moved and Covid-19 entered our lives. The last time I saw my colorist, Gari at Archer Salon in San Francisco was February, 2020. I was planning to go once we moved- at the end of March for my 8 week color touch-up. Well, we all know what happened next…

Shut down of all hair and nail salons. So, I waited it out, thinking that everything would open back up fairly quickly! Who would have thought…….

Finally on November 5 after months and months of anticipation, the day came for my color transition from my grown out faded red hair and stripped white roots to silver-grey. I honestly was not how my hair would look. I was both excited and nervous too, as I knew my color would need to be bleached. I’ve read so many horror stories about hair damage after bleaching. Plus my previous colorist told me that I would have to cut my hair to really transition to grey the right way. I had contemplated going grey before…

Would going grey make me look older or at least my age!!? Over 60.

I was the only one in the hair salon that day. Gari and his assistant gave me the VIP Covid safe treatment, which included a private parking spot right in front of the salon.. huge since the salon is on a (once) busy street in Union Square, a black paper mask, and a pair comfy velvet booties. The process took about 9 hours. My hair was bleached and checked in stages. The good news- I was told that my red lifted much more easily than Gari thought it would. I was happy about that too.

The time actually went by quickly. It was nice to catch up… I was getting really excited to see the outcome.

Once the my hair was bleached then Gari deposited different color glosses and toners, plus Olaplex to minimize any damage.

I was thrilled to see my transformation and absolutely loved the outcome. The color looked gorgeous and I felt younger and lighter.. go figure. I sent some photos to my husband… who even now is not quite sure he likes it.

Experimenting with different make-up shades and colors is fun. I can now wear colors that I could not as a red-head. I get lots of compliments too!! Except my husband is still debating!

It’s been 12 weeks since my color change.. and I continue to love the look. The salons are shut down again, but that’s Ok. On Gari’s advise I bought, Mr. Smith Blond to minimize any yellowing and Guy-Tang Color 10A to use as a gloss every 8 weeks or so.

I’d love to go just a tiny bit more silver.

There is some breakage, but I’ve been taking care of my hair by continuing using Olaplex No. 0, No. 3, No. 6 Plus weekly shampooing with Mr. Smith. Blond.

I get lots of compliments too!!

By the end of 2021 all my true color should be revealed!!

Happy New Year!!


Silver Hair Journey Part 2 @shamelesslysilver

It’s been 20 weeks since my last hair color.

I’m thrilled to see tiny little fuzzy white and black hairs filling in where my hair has thinned. My new hair growth feels silkier and smoother, but my ends are fried because hair salons have been closed since Mid-March. I’m using lots of moroccan oil on my split ends, deep conditioning and only washing my hair once a week. Loving updos for now until I can get a good cut! There are so many inspiring YouTube tutorials for silver hair from my silver hair sisters.


I’m surprised to see so many thin strands of my natural black hair peeking through around my hair line. So cool to see my hair fill in where it was thinning. As a little girl people used to comment about how blue black my hair looked. Over the years my color has changed to a dark brown, auburn with highlights and lowlights, light reddish blond, dark blonde, back to auburn and finally red. Red my signature hair color, as my friends would say. I have to admit, I did question this transition at first. But keeping up with color just became too much.

My red hair color was gorgeous out of my colorist chair, then within a week grey roots started showing up. On one hand I’m lucky, my hair grows fast. I hated my roots and immediately grabbed WOW powder for touch ups. Then about a week later in-between salon visits, I mixed three different Clairol Color Root Touch-up boxes. I’d have a little left from each box to play with until my next professional color. I also started purchasing tubes of professional color from my colorist to stretch out my salon visits.

Before Covid-19 my roots were growing in and I was planning a salon visit. My last color was in February 2020. Then Shelter in Place and all salons closed. For weeks I wore hats, even on Zoom calls. I contemplated getting a touch -up color kit from my salon to tide me over, but by the time I was ready it was too late. My roots have grown in too much for a simple touch-up. It’s now or never to go silver. I’ve had the perfect start!

It’s going on week 20 since my last color. I’m excited to see my transformation, though I have to be honest, being a plastic surgery coach, I hesitated just a little. As my birthday draws near I’m embracing the new me.

Beauty is not defined by age or hair color!!

Michele Garber- The NipTuck Coach

I recently posted some pictures on Facebook. Some of the comments from my friends surprised me,” You look entirely different,” and “softer“. Along with stunning, chic, and gorgeous. I’m sure there will be many more as my hair goes through different renditions of grey, and silver. Part of the fun is exploring colors that look best with my skin tone and new hair color. A good excuse to go shopping. It’s time to call on a make-up artist and fashion color specialist.

You can follow my journey on Instagram @shamelesslysilver



Is It Time to Ditch My Red Hair and Go Grey?

Does grey hair make me look old or beautiful?

That’s a question which I keep asking myself, will I consider this transition.

My self-isolating story during COVID-19 began on March 16, 2020. Thankfully my family and friends are healthy and well.

We all are facing many challenges and varying degrees of the same challenges. The world we knew only a short time ago has changed. Not only am I facing different challenges staying at home, but I’m learning more self-love; wrinkles, grey roots and all.

Being in the medical aesthetics industry, I’m used to getting Botox every few months and filler touch-ups when needed.  Now,  I’m watching my Botox wear off and my fillers dissolve which by the way is not a bad thing. There is nothing wrong with giving your face a break as long as you keep up with a good skin care routine.   Thankfully, I have good skin care products and facials to tide me over until I can finally get a Clear and Brilliant laser treatment that has been cancelled three times, Botox and fillers.  Can’t wait!! Practices are beginning to come back slowly starting this week in some parts of the country.  Of course, there will be many safety precautions for patients and staff.

However, my biggest challenge – my greying hair, beyond my roots now!  Is this the year I ditch the dye?

Cindy Joseph

I was horrified to discover my first grey hair at the age of 16. I’d find one and pull it out, though they kept sprouting.  By the time I was in my early 20’s I had many strands of grey hairs woven into my natural very dark brown locks.  I hadn’t started coloring my hair yet. This all changed one day when I went to New York to a new stylist for a haircut.  I’ll never forget that day.  I was asked  why I wasn’t coloring my hair and was told the grey streaks made me looker older.   Wow, I was only about 24 years old!  Silver streaks were not fashionable in the 1980’s. I don’t remember why I didn’t color my hair at the time, maybe because my now X mother-in-law had beautiful salt and pepper hair. Going grey is lot more trendy now and women are posting stories about their grey hair journey.  Let’s face it, going grey is natural.  Jane Fonda showed off her grey locks at the Oscars. Perhaps the most famous grey haired model was Cindy Joseph. She was beautiful.   And of course  the super model Carmen Dell’Orefice who is now 88 years old and the worlds oldest model. Instagram has some beautiful going grey naturally posts. I love looking at Jack Martin’s transformations.

After being a slave to color for 40 years, I’ve been considering the idea of ditching my dye for about a year.  I’ve been a brunette, a dark blonde and now a redhead, my favorite hair color.  My color appointments are about three hours every 3-4 weeks, because getting the right tone of red takes time. I always get compliments after a color appointment. Will I get compliments after going grey?!  Does it really matter?  Will grey age me? or will it look stunning?  I’ve gone up to many women admiring their grey or silver hair.

I first thought about going all grey about a year and half ago.  I discovered it was a lot more complicated especially for long hair. I’ve always had long hair, its my identity and I’m not ready to cut it. Once I cut my hair and a friend was so surprised, she said, “you cut your status symbol.”  Going grey without cutting my hair is a long process. I’m still in the research phase and have a few ideas to discuss with my colorist.

My last color appointment with Gari at Archer Salon, SF was before Shelter in Place.

Color- Archer Salon, SF

I’m having fun watching my color transition, actually surprised to still see some dark strands, as I thought I was 100% white.  I’ve not quite embraced the grey fully though the more it grows each day, the more I embrace it. I’ve been wearing hats on all my Zoom consults and meetings. I love wearing hats and happen to have quite a few. A few days ago, I decided instead of touching up my now very big grey roots that I would use Magic Root Color, red,  I’ve used it before. But I had to use quite a bit to cover about 5 inches of white. My hair felt very gritty and sticky.  I left it on for a day then had to wash my hair. It didn’t all come out, I could see red through the grey and now my grey had a orange hue, though nobody could see it except me. I waited a couple of days then washed my hair with a clarifying shampoo. It all came out and I was very happy to see my bright silver again as it was starting to look pretty.

My husband jokes about my grey. He calls me Elivra and says now I know how I’ll look when I’m 80.

Not bad for 80!

I’ve been online looking at different silver hair styles going back and forth between coloring my hair back to red or not.

I have my basic root color from my colorist, developer, brushes, bowl everything I need to touch -up my roots. However, since my roots are now 4 or 5 inches in some spots, my colorist warns me that if I use only my root color on my virgin grey hair, I’m likely to have a band of color. Not a good look!!


3 months of Growth

I could buy the color kit for my virgin hair from my salon. This would entail mixing a couple of colors for roots and another color for my virgin grey hair plus gloss. Red is a difficult color to keep vibrant. Not a simple one-step process.

I’ve started to be braver and show my hair at Zoom meetings. Many of my friends like it.  The question still remains. Will grey/silver hair age me? Or will it look stunning and beautiful?

In the meantime, I ordered a gloss kit from my stylist and will at least brighten -up my ends which look very faded and frayed.

I can embrace my grey and wait it out till mid-June when my salon will open.  Maybe by the time I see my colorist, I’ll have made a decision to either go grey, blonde or color it back to red. I posted the first public peak of my grey roots in a Facebook story.  I’m still contemplating my next steps… Stay tuned!!